I was young and emotionally unprepared for marriage. I’ve had almost all of those things happen to me. What if a husband has an emotional affair at the office but never takes the woman to bed? What if he does take her to bed?ĭoes God expect a wife to endure until the end no matter how much it hurts?.What if he pins her down until she screams or whispers hateful words in her ear over and over again until she feels like dying?.What if a husband never pays the bills or never pays them on time leaving his wife and children without electricity or water on a regular basis? What if he neglects to take care of his family?.What if a husband treats his wife with disdain during the day and expects her to be his sex kitten at night?.What if a husband calls his wife names, belittles her in front of the children, yells at her for no reason, and emotionally abuses her for years?.What if a husband is so controlling that he won’t let her lock the bathroom door, check the mail, have any money, or drive the car?.What if a husband is extremely controlling and blows up every time his wife “disobeys” or simply makes a mistake?.What if a man spends every night sitting in a dark room in front of his computer looking at pornography and never looks twice at his wife or has a kind word to say to her?.Divorce has long term consequences and ramifications. The reality is that divorce is painful for all those involved. Is adultery the only Biblical reason for divorce?.So, today I want to look at what I know is a sensitive subject and could be controversial. I can’t describe the depth of pain and despair I found myself in at that time in my life. I was a broken, broken young woman desperate to be loved, cared for, and cherished. I believe with all of my heart that God gave me the courage to leave a really bad situation. I had a lot of pride and admitting that things were bad, that I needed help, that I had made a huge mistake was hard. Making that call was one of the hardest things I’ve ever done. However, there were a lot of reasons I called my mom that day and asked her if I could come home. I generally don’t talk about it much because I do have children from that marriage. My first marriage was very, very difficult. I mean, who was she to say I should have never left my ex-husband? Really, did she know any of the circumstances? After we had been married for three years and I was pregnant with my fifth child, a “well meaning Christian” told my husband that we were committing adultery and that we both needed to go back to our first spouses. Two years later I married my husband, Mykal, who had also been divorced. Today I want to take a look at Biblical grounds for divorce and really see what the Bible has to say on the matter.Īt the young age of 21, I was a divorced mother of three small children. In Christian circles, women are often made to feel like regardless of their situation, divorce is not an option.

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